Secret Meetings with an Ex Before Marriage? That’s Not Closure—It’s a Red Flag

Meeting up with an ex for “closure” right before marriage, and then hiding it, is a major red flag. In a committed relationship, especially one heading toward marriage, transparency is crucial.

"Silent glances reveal the truths words try to hide."

The issue here isn’t just the meeting itself; it’s the secrecy around it. Trust is built on openness, and when one partner decides to withhold something this charged, it’s natural for the other to question the foundation of their relationship.

“Closure” with an ex is often an excuse to revisit unresolved feelings. Yes, some people reflect on past relationships before big milestones, but doing so secretly suggests there’s more to it. If he felt the need for closure, it should have been an open conversation from the start. Keeping it hidden just erodes trust and makes the current partner wonder, “What else is being kept from me?”

Calling off the wedding may seem drastic to some, but in reality, it’s a logical reaction to feeling blindsided. This is about protecting oneself from a marriage built on shaky ground. When partners prioritize honesty and respect over hiding things to avoid conflict, they build a solid foundation. In this case, the decision to end things reflects a commitment to not settling for anything less than total trust.